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All of us have our own fantasies And there is a whole lot of difference between fantasies of a man and that of a woman. And yet again there is a lot of difference between fantasies of every man and that of every woman. Every man is different and so is every woman. Now many men might have one very common fantasy, that is watching a woman engage in self love. What does this mean? This means watching a woman masturbate. Now you are a man and have had the same fantasy about your girlfriend or wife? Are you that hero who has actually successfully achieved this fantasy? Well if you are the man who hasn't achieved this hero status, let me tell you I have been extremely lucky in this area! My girl and I engage in love and I have had the pleasure to see her engage in self love every time. This also happens without me even asking her for it. Now why is it that so many men fantasies looking at their female partners engage in self love, but they don't have the guts to ask their lady love to do it? Now I am going to tell you why self love is important, how can you persuade her to engage in self love and so on. Are you ready for it now? Then lets start.
It is a known fact that masturbating woman in front of her partner is a predominant male fantasy. And its another fact that women enjoy engaging with their partners when with them rather than playing with herself. Now both men and women interests are important and have to be taken into consideration.
There can be far many reasons for a man to be interested in watching his lady masturbate. It can be mere curiosity, adolescent associations, voyeuristic tendencies, or something else altogether, but this fantasy DOES exists in men of all ages. So when it exists at such a high level, why keep it only a fantasy?
Now I am going to explain to you as to why Masturbating is important in a relationship. This is a very simple yet complicated theory. In a relationship it becomes important that both partners go through all of each others fantasies. This enhances your relationship and puts in some kind of a comfort that may not exist in a couple that don't allow each others fantasies to be experimented. Many a times we will see that when there are fantasies left out, they are kept somewhere simmering at the back of your head. This happens because you are reluctant to talk about your fantasies to your partner. This just keeps growing with time and one day will come when it starts showing in the couples well being. This has many a times led to break-up and divorces too. In one of my previous articles I have mentioned how important it is to her and say things to each other. I have started sharing all sexual talk with my lady and I found how close we have gotten to each other. Men are said to be more free when it comes to taking about sexual fantasies or sex all by itself. Women don't really open up about them to everyone. So when you start talking to your partner about your fantasies, you start building a kind of trust in her mind for you. So because she will see you opening up freely to her, she will start doing it too. And then you will see how important a woman's fantasy is to a relationship. This is one of the main reasons why most women end up being non satisfied with their sex lives. They are unable to convey their wants as they don't trust you enough even if your are long married or in a relationship for very long.
Solution is if you are a man then START talking right away. Speak about it and you will learn how easy and comfortable your relationship with your lady becomes there after. Women are known to be smarter beings, but they cannot just read minds, unless you have just been with her for too long that she can just guess what next you are going to say or do or what you are thinking. Now this talking about your fantasies to her should go both ways. As I said once the woman starts seeing you opening up to her, she will reciprocate to you and let me tell you certain female fantasies will just excite you a bit too much and you will be holding on to the edge of the seat when indulging in sex with her next time. Once you start speaking about it, you start developing a whole new kind of trust. This will show the next time you indulge in sex and THIS IS COMING FROM PERSONAL EXPERIENCE! You have to know your love lady's desires and fantasies as I rate it as a whole new chapter in your book of love.
But now for young couples, that is if you haven't been together for too long, asking her and talking to her about this is risky. Yet, if you are an honest person and put forth your points in a specific way that is not going to seem desperate or obscene to her then you can start talking and letting her know of your fantasies right away. Put your reasons forth properly, and she should be agreeing to give a result to your fantasies, but if she doesn't then you better wait rather than force her or something else. You don't have to be disappointed as she will only say no because probably she wants to know other spheres of you better.
There is a lot of time in hand with your partner if you are honest. But there is a way if you are so keen on making this happen. You can propose a mutual masturbation session. Where both f you can masturbate looking at each other. This works greatly. The excitement rate is so much and you get to see and know what she likes, where she likes being touched and vice versa.
On the other hand, a couple of may be an yearlong marriage, does very little to explore their fantasies and sex lives. They are always waiting for the right moment to get intimate with each other. But there has to be variety as variety will keep you alive with each other for longer period of time. But what happens is that this married couple doesn't like to waste the precious time with each other so they are usually at each other rather than for each other. Do you know what that means? Well for each other means the lady will do it all for her husband and vice versa, but that doesn't happen due to the lack of intimate moments. But I should let them know that imagination and experimentation is the virtue of a healthy sex life with your partner. Make your partner feel and know that she is the most beautiful creation of God and the way she will reciprocate is just MIND BLOWING. So then that time asking her or letting her know that you want to see her masturbate, might just be her secret desire as well.
WAYS TO PERSUADE YOUR PARTNER TO INDULGE IN SELF LOVE:-
This is the most important thing. We now know how important or valuable self love is in a relationship. But how does a man ask his woman that he fantasies watching her at the moment rather than being AT her? The most important factor that will play a role in this job of persuading her will be TRUST. Your partner has to trust you. This is where the sanity of your relationship will be shown. To the world you can be the most compatible and perfect couple. But this trust in bed you will know how much YOUR woman TRUSTS YOU. If she trust you, you will see how amazingly simple it is to persuade her in engaging in self love. Let me tell you, it can be as easy as just asking her for it.
But usually this is not the case. Very few women TRUST their partners so much that they could just give in. Usually it so happens that a woman loves her man more than trusting him. So this love becomes a factor that she will do anything to actually please him. But I am not in favour of this. I think self love should only due to more of trust and then love. But there are other types of women too. Some women will NEVER do anything that will make them feel uncomfortable, no matter how much they LOVE their partners.
Therefore your goal should be to make your woman feel comfortable enough to open up entirely with you. This is a slow process and takes time but you will also see the fruitful results when it starts working for you, when your woman trusts your and is comfortable enough to merge her fantasies with that of yours. To convince her to do it the first time is the main problem. How do you do it the first time? How do you tell her what you want in an ethical and a non demanding manner? An honest relationship will provide you the openness needed for all your desires and fantasies to be shared with her. So open up with complete honesty to her, start by telling her about this fantasy you harbor. If she finds it awkward, offer to do it first. How do you do that? Here is an example. Ask her to relax and sit resting her back to the bed, let her be fully clothed, ask her to watch you. Remember she has to watch you, not touch you. And you start your action of stripping and then moving on to masturbating, you will soon see her clothes coming off, and it will become a mutual process soon after you are done.
If still some sort of a problem persists, then introduce a role-play. Perhaps something like you are a burglar, and this lady (your partner) is alone at home, and she comes into the house early. You hide in the closet not knowing what to do next you just watch her as she thinks no one is at home. She starts to play around a bit with herself and not knowing that the burglar, you, are in the closet. And before you know your eyes will be ogling out there and she will be enjoying her play at herself.
This was just one example. You can experiment a lot lot more. Now you have to be careful about one thing is that you shouldn't be misunderstood. Because once you think of it from her point of view, she is there beautifully waiting for you and she wants to engage herself WITH you and you prefer just WATCH her with herself? She might take it in a wrong way. This may also make her feel as if she is not good enough WITH you. But we know that is not the case here. So make sure she understands you desire in the right way. Unless you really explain your desire well, you will be looked at as a pervert. And you on the other hand will have a hard time staying put. I mean at some point of time the situation inside your pants will go berserk. So make sure you calculate the incidents well before you put forth your voyeuristic encounter.
This was about why is masturbation important and how can it be experimented and enjoyed not just by singles but also by couples of all ages. This article spoke about desires, fantasies, trust, hear and say, and a lot of truths about couples in love.
Thank you for reading...
Cheers
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